Adoptees are picked (one way or another) to be a part of a family. The adoptee doesn’t usually get a say in the matter and sometimes grow up in a family they don’t always get along with. Not only does this perpetuate the “I don’t belong” feelings but possibly is the genesis of those feelings. This may all be unfair to the adoptive family because there are just as many non-adoptive families that don’t get along! Those kids don’t have an “out” by being able to say they’re adopted!. There aren’t any families out there that get along 100% of the time and there is usually one jerk in the family that causes some dissention. So come on fellow adoptees, put the dinner fork down next time your selfish family member says something at the family party that provokes you… at least you can say “I’m adopted!”  🙂