What does it mean to you when someone says “I didn’t mean to, I was just caught up in the moment”? That’s what people say when they’ve done something they wish they hadn’t. What is it about that moment that makes a totally logical and responsible person forget EVERYTHING they know and have been taught? What is it about that moment that can cause a person to completely disregard the consequences? Why does everything seem to make sense and be perfect “in the moment”. That one moment can create such disruption in your life and cause it to veer off-course so severely that some people never recover. Yet, in that moment, the only thing you’re thinking is “Yes! This feels so right, I don’t care that it’s wrong!”. What is so magical about that moment that we lose all self control? What hormones are being released that clouds the brain’s thinking? How can we combat that without drugs? It takes a very strong person to be able to stop and think, but that is what has to be done. Just stop.. and think. When you’re in a moment that feels so good and things are progressing, and you like it, there is usually a small nagging little voice in your head that tells you this action will have major negative consequences. Listen to it! Once that nagging voice speaks up, stop everything and take a breath, and think. Think about all of those consequences, know that they are real, and lift the fog of the moment. You will see clearly and then you’ll be able to control yourself again. We are human and will lose control at some point in our lives but as you’re talking to your kids about these things, warn them about that “moment” and explain to them how they can fight that moment. Passionate moments can be amazing, when they’re not going to hurt anyone. Just imagine if every pregnancy was deliberate and planned, there would be no need for adoption or homeless children in foster care.. the world will never be perfect, but we can make a difference.