When someone is scared and lashing out, wrap them with your love. Fear is so powerful. I know I’ve talked about it before, but it bears repeating. Fear can control us, if we let it. It can control how we act and react to people. Just like a cornered, scared dog will try to bite you, people will snap back at you if they feel frightened. To the recipient, it seems irrational and cold, when most times it has nothing to do with you. If  you are on the receiving end of this behavior, literally throw your arms around them and tell them how much you love them. When you were a kid and felt scared, didn’t you appreciate the warm embrace of someone who would comfort you? We age physically, but emotionally we will always need that comfort and security. It’s so hard to be on the receiving end of that fear-induced bark and it hurts your feelings but remember that fear is an affliction and the scared dog just needs to be reassured with some love. Pick that person up and lift them, wrap them with your love and let them know they can’t push you away. See what happens. You will see the armor come down and the ice melt. They will become as warm to you as you are to them.