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I was perusing the adoptee blogs and facebook pages and came across one that is specifically for angry adoptees. There were some very interesting topics on there but I was intrigued by one of the posts that asked for positive adoptees who were happy to leave them alone, and to “go away”, This made me laugh! It was so blunt but I completely understand wanting to wallow in your misery and they have every right to do so. I applaud the person who came up with the site just for disgruntled adoptees. They have the right to feel angry and have a place to voice that anger without fear of repercussion or someone trying to beat positivity into them. I only try to inject positive solutions and thoughts to those who are looking for it. I would never impose myself on those who just need to vent. That, by the way, is a learned behavior; to let someone just vent without action. My daughter would vent to me and say irrational things out of anger to which I would immediately try to lecture her on a proper reaction and tell her how I could help fix the problem. She didn’t like that very much and started to shut down on me. It took an outside person to tell me that she just needs to vent sometimes without action on my part. She challenged me to just listen so I did and I saw that even though my daughter would be very angry I noticed that she would never take those reactions out on the person she was talking about. Turns out, she did just need to get it off her chest, then she would handle the situation appropriately. I learned that when people are hurting they say crazy and hurtful things but they just need to let it out there and then they can gather themselves and think rationally. So you go, angry adoptees! Say what you need to say, get it off your chest and hopefully you can feel better knowing there are others who feel the way you do. Then when you’re tired of being angry, come read my blog and talk to me.