If you haven’t heard about this case regarding Veronica Brown, her father, and her adoptive parents, I urge you to read about that before reading this post. This story is about a sweet little girl who was adopted by her birth mother’s choice and the birth father contested it but has lost custody to the adoptive parents. I could pick this story apart in soooooo many ways and look at it from many different perspectives, all different. In stories like this you want to place blame somewhere but where to place that blame? Many people (mostly Cherokee Indians) are blaming the adoptive parents for fighting for the girl. Many others are blaming the girl’s biological father for initially wanting to give up parental rights although he was not successful in that. He later attempted to contest the adoption. Some would even blame the birth mother for choosing adoption without giving the father a chance. I don’t think that placing blame on any of these people is fair. The birth mother was under the impression the father didn’t want the child, nor did she, therefore she attempted to do the right thing. The adoptive parents are good people looking to give a sweet child the life she would never have otherwise. They took the child and fell in love with her. The birth father wants his little girl and is more than capable of raising her. Why are we spending our emotional calories blaming people? The little girl is blessed to be so loved and wanted, I pray that she grows up knowing that. Law has now mandated that the child return with her adoptive parents. However, I know that reality is that if she suffers any unhappiness at all she will blame her adoptive parents and her biological father and mother for not making sure she grew up with them. Here is the REAL ISSUE and where you can direct your blame: the law. Unfortunately, the law is black and white and there is nothing black and white about issues regarding children. Since when is every child exactly the same? Their little personalities and the way they deal with things are different. The law should take in every variable involved in this case and ultimately do what is in the best interest of the little girl, right? I guess that’s the problem; everyone wants to love and care for her but there are three sides to every story: yours, theirs, and the truth. Every situation is different so don’t treat them all the same. In this case, all of them suffer. There are no easy answers in this situation but I hope that the adoptive parents are at least aware that one day that little girl will ask them why they didn’t let her biological father keep her. What are your thoughts regarding this controversial matter?