You don’t have to understand why someone does something or acts a certain way. You don’t have to “get it” and you certainly don’t try to change it or you will drive yourself crazy. I talk a lot about giving people the “space” to react and this is no different. You obviously can’t change them so your only choice is to change the way you react to it. Remember that annoying kid in kindergarten that was determined to get your attention by pulling your hair or pinching you? The more you reacted to that, the more the kid would do it! It’s the same when we are adults. If you don’t provide a reaction to a behavior, it’s possible that behavior could stop. The trick is to let them act a fool and you stand on the sidelines and watch instead of react. When you don’t give that reaction they have no choice but to see themselves because they’re not distracted by watching you. It’s really funny, give it a try and see if it works! At the least, it will keep your blood pressure down and that alone is worth it.